Advice

[Rotore]

Hey guys i kinda stuck between to roads here and need some advice.

I have issues with my mother very controlling you know says no to everything doesnt listen or anything and recently she kicked me out of the house but now wants me to come back. I'm only 17 BTW. I would stay not for her but my niece and nephew which are 3 and 1. i was with them since birth and everything and i dont want to leave them. So that's my first option moving back in but then i have to deal w/ my mothers ***** attitude and all her bull**** (trust me if your mom was like mine you'd know how i feel) and live in delaware which i hate and cant stand to be here.

Other option i have is to leave to puerto rico w/ my gf and daughters you know start all over on the island and make my life there then come and visit every once in a while. And that would be better because i have my gf who is been there for me through some deep **** you know and ill be living somewhere where i feel comfortable more home like.

which option would you guys go for?

 

[mike75925]

let your heart guide you. which can you live with doing, which can you not live with doing? will you honestly be able to come back as often as you would like? will your girl leave you if you move there? i've seen stranger things happen. just make an informed decision. ultimately, you and your loved ones will have to live with your decisions.

 

[Rotore]

its a hard and huge choice dude really.

me and my girl and my daughters are basically homeless and i cant move into my parents and leave them out on the street you get where i'm going. I have my own little family to take care of and i cant be without them. Been busting my as$ to make sure they have food and shelter. So i'm basically giving up everything that i own or want to do to take care of them until we get on our feet.

 

[mike75925]

that's what being a man and husband is all about. you seem to know a fair bit mechanically, you could buy some things in ok condition spiff em up a bit and resale. turn a quick buck. or get on with a lawnmower or other shop. idk, what all skills you have, but make the most of em.

 

[Rotore]

thats what i was planning to do and in PR i'd have my in-laws helping me out(my gf brothers) we get along great and all so they can help me get a job.

 

[mike75925]

cool, have them scout the 'yards' for suitable parts if there's a good enough market, sell your stuff here and hook it up when you get there. i was gonna say if you were in the area, to try with the navy, but they closed roosevelt roads. knew a couple of guys from there, but lost touch. is oil a big deal there? in case things don't work out?

 

[freakboy]

I personaly would go were theres more options for you. mabey move to PR and then when your stable on your feet and save up enough move back here if you want. Im sure your Gf will love to be with her family and if you get along with them better then you get along with yours i would go there. and visit every once in a while. And to cover your *** tell your mother that you love her but want to go to a place were you and your family are better off.

 

[TOO FAST]

Sounds like you have some good support. Sometimes people like your mother love their
kids and others but are so difficult to live with that it destroys their relationships. Sounds
like she has issues you can't solve. Those are her problems, you can't take it personal.
Ultimately your kids are the most important thing - even more than go karts, try to do
what is best for them. You sound really mature so I'm sure you will find a way. Don't
get separated from them, even if it means moving, or living like a poor man. Tough times will pass if you keep working at it. You have lots of support here and it good you
sought advice, others here have probably been through this kind of stuff and can help
you with their experience. Stay positive man.

 

[Rotore]

cool, have them scout the 'yards' for suitable parts if there's a good enough market, sell your stuff here and hook it up when you get there. i was gonna say if you were in the area, to try with the navy, but they closed roosevelt roads. knew a couple of guys from there, but lost touch. is oil a big deal there? in case things don't work out?

i know there are some oil rigs on the southern part of the island but i think there just reserves.

I personaly would go were theres more options for you. mabey move to PR and then when your stable on your feet and save up enough move back here if you want. Im sure your Gf will love to be with her family and if you get along with them better then you get along with yours i would go there. and visit every once in a while. And to cover your *** tell your mother that you love her but want to go to a place were you and your family are better off.

yea i think of her and my kids before me and yea i get along with hers alot beeter then mine but for a cover up i'd have to trick my mom and say im somewhere else so she doesnt go looking.

Sounds like you have some good support. Sometimes people like your mother love their
kids and others but are so difficult to live with that it destroys their relationships. Sounds
like she has issues you can't solve. Those are her problems, you can't take it personal.
Ultimately your kids are the most important thing - even more than go karts, try to do
what is best for them. You sound really mature so I'm sure you will find a way. Don't
get separated from them, even if it means moving, or living like a poor man. Tough times will pass if you keep working at it. You have lots of support here and it good you
sought advice, others here have probably been through this kind of stuff and can help
you with their experience. Stay positive man.

yup my family is first and you have a point there you know she needs to realize that im growning up.
and i dont mind bustin my as$ for my family its all worth it in the end anyway. Thanks for the support guys.

Mature didnt happen until i met my girl lol she has changed my way of thinking alot and everyone says im being more mature but my mom says im being a smart As$ and disrespectful.

Always positive dude thanks for the advice.

 

[jr dragster T]

I'd say its best to do what is best for you and your family. I'm sorry to hear about your hard times, Hope it gets better. All the best,

Tyler.

 

[freakboy]

Remember in hard times keep strong and keep your head up high!

 

[jr dragster T]