A Second Can Change Forever

[tinkerman73]

We all take life and how we live for granted. We go here and go there. We are always running late so racing to get there in time. always too much to do and never enough time to get it done! Never enough hours in the day to finish what we set out to do and to finish those things that came up and we are left with too little time to spend with the loved ones! Many years ago I lost my first son in the middle of the night. I vowed I would spend more time with my family. Eventually in the last year I have gotten too busy again trying to keep bills paid and get some needed things done in the home. To pay for vehicle repairs and schooling supplies and supplies to home school one. But you never know when a second can change forever! Over two months ago Rachel and I had pulled into a store and parked our van. Next thing I knew a ( I will leave this section blank) backed into us. I had just enough time to blow the horn to no avail. Rachel was already half out of the van. Well, it hurt my back. But nothing compared to what has happened to her. It hurt her back which she already had MS. Also screwed up her rotor cuff as well as gave her a concussion. No one fathoms hos serious this can be in such a little fender bender. But that second has changer her life forever. She is moody now and it comes and goes. Her memory is failing. She is much more emotional. She is suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. Which came up and slapper her hard in the face with her past that she has tried to forget about. A past that was far from being fanciful. Actually a past that is horrific. She is totally a changed person now. Sometimes hard to live with. I say this because sometimes she just can not think and comprehend. Just like a child sometimes. Very frustrating for me. Also hard for me to remember and to stop and give the moment a second to think about and to offer compassion. That second that changed forever also has effected myself as well as our three children. A few weeks ago my youngest boy was riding his bike, refusing to wear his helmet. He was on the sidewalk. However a car had parked on the side, so he had to pull out and turn around. He did not see the car. Now did the driver see him. A second that changed forever. At first, everyone thought he was fine other then minor scratches and bruises. But we were warned of a concussion. Well 4 days later we were out fishing and we decided it was time to go home. He started to jump from rock to rock. I told him not to. Just then, he dove head first into a rock. So fast, that I did not even see it! I just saw him climbing back to his feet as fast as he could. A second that changed forever. He stood up, said "Dad, I'm sorry" By then the blood was flowing into his eyes and he began to come to realization of what just happened. I swooped him up and ran to the van. On the way, a shoe broke and fell off. I drove a hundred to the hospital the whole was lights flashing and blinkers on and blowing the horn. We got him there in a very timely fashion. However, the hospital was packed with kids who had fallen and had huge knots on their head. So we waited for over 4 hours before they saw him and stitched his head back together. We were warned again about a concision. A second that changed forever. He is strongly showing signs of either ADD or ADHD now. He is having bad memory lapses. He can not remember what he ate for breakfast, which is ALWAYS the same thing, a pop tart. He could not remember it was the first day of school on Wednesday! Then on Thursday, he still thought it was the beginning of summer, not school! His old behavior has changed. A second that changed forever. In this case, two separate seconds that changed forever. He is not the same child now just like my loving wife is not the same person anymore. We all need to take a moment to slow down and stop taking life for granted! We never know when there will be a second that will change forever. Some day Christ will come in a second and life on Earth will be changed forever! What will you be doing then? Where will you be racing off too. What will you be late for? It only takes a second to stop so that you can take a deep breath and make a prayer. It only takes a second to tell a love one that you love them. It only takes a second to hug your child. A second can change forever!!

For whomever believeth in him shall not perish, but have everlasting life!

 

[gokart14]

WOW MAN....that really hit me hard... but i couldent agree more!!! we all take life for granted and at any second it can be changed. so many times i forget about god cause i am to busy, but it is so important.

Thank you so much for posting this... because even though i believe in Jesus... sometimes even i need to realieze that any second could change your life...\

JOHN 3:16
god so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son That whoever believes in him shall not parish but have everlasting life

 

[Orange Krate]

sorry to hear of your troubles. Glad you're drawing strength from the right Well.

It's true we never think of that second that will change your life. I was watching a youtube clip of a guy riding a go-kart too fast in the street. He gave a quick glance to see the coast was clear and went for it. It was clear, but, it was too short a glance. I became painfully aware I have been guilty of this many times myself.

We should all take a second look.

 

[kendelrk]

im sorry to hear of your child and wife, i hope theyre ok, i know its true when you say a second can change forever, on two diffrent occasions i witnissed this, my dad had called us on his bluetooth inside his helmet on his motorcycle, as he said he was going to be home rushing from a busy street, we think he had been hit by a car, nobody knows, he lost his memory, messed up his arms and turned into a totally diffrent person, he went from helpful loving dad, to mean messed up dad and never helped me with my projects and it ended with him kicking us out for his new wife whos an alchaholic and here kids, and my grandmother also had problems, she was picking up our neighbor from work at 2 in the morning since she worked at a bar, she came to a red stop light and an ex cop was drunk and hit her car from behind, crushing her back, they had to use the jaws of life to get her out of the car, and she was rushed to the hospital, to this day she cannot walk right, use her broken foot, and nothing can coorect it, she used to be able to go and ride bikes with us, but not with her back and not being able to walk, she has to realy on everyone to help her through the house and store and she absolutley hates it, but her case was dropped because he said he wasnt drunk and he didnt do it, so the case was let go, and life is harder than ever for her, thats why when i take the care out for a drive, i only take the backroads, and when i go to turn even if theres a car coming from a stop i take two looks, it just shows to the title, a second can change forever

 

[B.M.800]

Thats rough...

I know what it like to "not have enough time" theres lots of thing I wanted to do before school starts, not many got done.


Just remember the best is yet to come, there can be beauty from pain...

 

[Doc Sprocket]

9/11 taught me that lesson. It forever changed my outlook on many things. Even though I am in Canada and did not get affected "directly", it not only hit me, it changed me.

Lest we forget.

 

[tinkerman73]

kendlerk, that is very sad to hear. Yes I know there are far worse cases then this. I knew a kid in school. Got a new crotch rocket for his 16th birthday. Went for a joy ride. Went too fast for the curve. They had to cut the gaurdrail to take into the hospitol with him. There they removed the helmet stuck in the gaurd rail. There was nothing really left inside. They figure he died instanly from head wounds when he hit. So dont get me wrong. I know our troubles are not that great. Just seams it to me! Thanks for the very kind words guys.